So You Married an Idiot, by Vanessa

So You Married an Idiot

What do you hear more often?

“My husband is such an idiot, yesterday he…”


“My husband is amazing, yesterday he…”

What do you say more often? 

Do we ever stop to think about how that reflects on us?  After all, we’re the geniuses that married these idiots.  Committed to them for life.  Us and the idiots, forever.  It’s not like we need to tell people our husbands aren’t perfect, they can probably figure that out on their own considering nobody’s perfect.

I try to brag on my husband.  It’s kind of easy.  He is the best daddy in the world.  He’s a hard worker.  He’s hilarious, he can always make me laugh — even when I don’t want to be laughing.  He’s also hot and an excellent lovah.  (You knew I was going to go there, don’t act all shocked.)

I have a couple of t-shirts from From*me Tees.  I love ‘em.  I want more!  When I was on their site one time, I noticed some links on their About Us page.  One was specifically for wives, so I followed it and found myself here.  It’s a 30-day challenge for wives — for 30 days you don’t say anything negative to or about your husband.  But that’s not all.  You’re also supposed to say something you admire and respect about your husband to others and to your husband. 

I did that challenge.  I used the guide they offer for my devotion time.  It was pretty easy for me to speak well about my husband to others.  It was slightly more difficult for me to refrain from saying anything negative, but I know how hard I worked and I think I did a decent job.

Do you know what the hardest part was?  Saying uplifting things to my husband.  It’s so easy to tell my friends how great he is, but when it came to telling him face-to-face I fell short.  I am pretty sure part of that was pride — I didn’t want him to get too high and mighty, right?   But he needs that affirmation.  And even if he doesn’t need it, I bet he wouldn’t hate hearing it!  Once in a while at work he’ll get an e-mail forwarded to him.  A higher up in the company bragging on him, and someone passes it along for him to read.  It’s a good feeling!  Shouldn’t I, as his wife, be able to give him that kind of feeling too?  And do better at it?  I think so.

Even if a husband seems to have more negative traits than positive, focusing on those pros can serve you well.  Now don’t get me wrong, I know some husbands are creeps.  Some wives are creeps too.  But if you’re married and you’re planning on staying that way, wouldn’t you rather be with someone you’re quicker to promote than put down?  Try it.  Brag on the man.  Pick at least one thing you like about him and tell him about it.  Swell his pride.  I challenge you to the challenge.

About Vanessa:

Because there’s more to me than two adorable little girls. There’s more to me than diaper changes. I’m more than bottles and sippy cups. More than cribs and high chairs.

I’m a Christian, a woman, a daughter, a sister, a friend.

I am a wife. A role I treasure, and a role I am always trying to improve upon.

And now, a role I am blogging about. That, and the other roles that make up my life. But mostly, being a wife and what comes with that. Consider yourself warned.


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