Making Mistakes, by Greg Baer, M.D.
Making Mistakes

Making Mistakes

The whole goal of learning is to acquire information or skills that we didn’t have before and, hopefully, to use that information to make our lives happier.

By definition, as we learn our knowledge grows, so as we move along the road of learning it is absolutely unavoidable that we must at times make choices with imperfect knowledge, and with imperfect knowledge we cannot avoid making mistakes. In other words, in the process of learning, we are guaranteed to make mistakes. It is not possible to avoid them.

It’s ironic, then, that we generally paint mistakes with such a heavy brush of dishonor and shame. When other people make mistakes—especially if they affect us in a negative way—we almost uniformly make them feel guilty for daring to commit a “crime” against us. We require apologies and demand that people pay for their mistakes. When we make mistakes, we feel guilty and often shameful.

And we do all this over these mistakes that are an unavoidable part of the process of learning.

Recently I experienced a much better way of responding to mistakes. I borrowed a friend’s car, and in it I found a navigation device, which was capable of giving me directions to any place in the country. I was fascinated with this device. It actually spoke and told me how far I had to travel to the next turn, which direction to turn, which lane to get in, and so on.

At one point, I was inattentive and drove past the street where the device told me to turn. To my amazement, the device did not shout, “You idiot! The turn was back there. Are you stupid, or are you blind?” No, instead the device said, “Recalculating,” and then it gave me new directions to my destination, based on my new location. All was well in the world.

What an amazing lesson. People do not learn better when they’re yelled at. They don’t need to be told that they’re stupid. They don’t need to be beaten or made to feel guilty. When they make mistakes, they just need to see the mistakes and learn from them. Wouldn’t the world be different if every time someone made a mistake, we simply said, “Recalcuating?”

About Greg Baer, M.D.

For twenty years, Greg Baer, M.D. was a highly successful surgeon, teacher, civic leader, and entrepreneur. But despite all his accomplishments, wealth, and respect, he felt empty

and unhappy. He became a drug addict and nearly committed suicide. In his subsequent search for genuine happiness, he learned some principles that have changed the lives of hundreds of thousands.


After Dr. Baer retired from one of the busiest solo ophthalmology practices in the United States, he began a new career of writing, teaching, and speaking. He has:


   • Written 16 books about relationships, marriage, and parenting. Real Love—The Truth About Finding Unconditional Love and Fulfilling Relationships* AND Real Love in

Marriage—The Truth About Finding Genuine Happiness Now and Forever* were published by Gotham Books, a division of Penguin Group (USA) Inc. Real Love has been translated into multiple languages, with 8 books of the series published in China. Other books by Dr. Baer include:

       Real Love in Parenting—Nine Simple and Powerfully Effective Principles for Raising Happy and Responsible Children*

       Real Love in Dating—The Truth About Finding the Perfect Partner*

       Real Love in the Workplace

       Real Love and Freedom for the Soul – Eliminating the Chains of Victimhood*

       Real Love for Wise Men and Women—The Truth About Sharing Real Love

               (* Also available as Audiobooks)


   • Produced the three-CD audio series, The Truth About Love and Lies.


   • Produced the 6 DVD set (with Workbook), The Essentials of Real Love.


   • Produced the PBS television special, "Real Answers," viewed nationwide.


   • Appeared on over 1500 radio and television programs from coast to coast. Dr. Baer has a compassionate and engaging media presence, typified by the following review:

“You’ll want to listen to this program in a doorway — it’s like an earthquake!

He rocked my foundation! Greg Baer touched me deeply.

He’s got the answer to finding happiness in life.”

(Tony Trupiano, Talk America)


   • Counseled personally with thousands of individuals and couples, profoundly changing their lives with the principles and power of Real Love.


   • Conducted over 300 seminars and corporate trainings and delivered speeches to audiences across the country where he has taught the principles of Real Love.


   • Developed a comprehensive website that offers Real Love education through video coaching, webcasts, chat rooms, and much more.


Said Ken Blanchard, author of The One Minute Manager, the best selling management book of all time, Real Love is the single most powerful motivator in a leader’s toolbox. Clear and unsentimental, this book is required reading for a profitable workplace.”


Dr. Baer and his wife, Donna, are the parents of seven children and live in Rome, Georgia.


                              For more information visit:

Search by Keyword

Search by Keyword

Copyright ©2009 Victorious Living Publishing House, Wendell, NC